I fight against it by rote, out of habit, for I am a creature of habit. If it's working [for me] why mess with it?
How dare you grow up, away from, or beyond me... instead of with or beside me?
How dare you utilize your gift of choice to re-frame your life goals and aspirations and decide they do not include me?
How dare you give me the old, it's not you it's me line... and really mean it? [That was my back up plan!]
How dare you want to be my friend and make the mental shift with apparent ease?
How dare you fade away or downgrade my status of importance...without a backward glance?
Did I miss the signal? Was I even looking for the signal? Alas a moot point!
How many times do we end up asking ourselves some of the same questions and we learn nothing from the previous occurrence? It's not an age thing, but a change thing... from the oldest to the youngest, we enjoy our comforts and the less stretching we do mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually... the better we like it.
However, if we change our perspective a bit from rabid protest to... at least a lukewarm embrace... we might just get the surprise of our lives. If we use the time we would spend protesting the inevitable to reflecting on or projecting the adjustments we would have more to look forward to.
I think Ecclesiastes 3:1-9 said it quite poetically:
For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven:
a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
a time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.
So in retrospect...
I guess you dared, because you cared... enough to make and take the hard road. So I guess, belated thanks are due.
Here's to you!
So to you fellow change bashers and/or reforming change bashers a final word of encouragement:
...people change so that we can learn to let them go, and sometimes [the] good things [we want to hold onto] fall apart so better things can fall together. [So if you've done all you can to understand/adapt to the change or hold things together and it's not working, your learning curve is about to be expanded and something better is coming your way!]
Originally posted Friday, July 17, 2009 at 1:05 AM