I fight against it by rote, out of habit, for I am a creature of habit. If it's working [for me] why mess with it?
How dare you grow up, away from, or beyond me... instead of with or beside me?
How dare you utilize your gift of choice to re-frame your life goals and aspirations and decide they do not include me?
How dare you give me the old, it's not you it's me line... and really mean it? [That was my back up plan!]
How dare you want to be my friend and make the mental shift with apparent ease?
How dare you fade away or downgrade my status of importance...without a backward glance?